Question 1

Why does Steade ask about children, marriage, faith and money?

Accepted Answer

Steade is for people looking for a long-term partner, and the differences that most often end serious relationships are about plans, not personality: whether to have children, when to marry, the place of faith, and money. Asking up front means we don’t introduce two people whose plans can’t fit. Most of these answers are used only for matching and are never shown on your profile.

Question 2

What is “Getting to know you”?

Accepted Answer

“Getting to know you” is three optional sections you can fill in after sign-up, each taking two or three minutes. Life together helps us avoid introducing people with very different plans for married life. What makes you feel cared for and How you communicate add a few short lines to your introductions, so the other person gets a feel for you before you meet. You see every line first and choose which ones are shown.

Question 3

What is “Life together”?

Accepted Answer

Life together is an optional set of ten questions about what married life might look like for you: where you’d live, your parents, money and work. We use your answers only to avoid introducing two people with very different plans. They’re never shown on your profile, and you can skip any question you’re unsure about.

Question 4

How does “What makes you feel cared for” work?

Accepted Answer

You go through eleven everyday moments, such as a hard day at work or a birthday. In the first seven, you tap what would mean the most to you and then what would come next. In the last four, you tap what you’d most likely do for someone you love. From your picks we write two short lines, like “What makes Mei feel cared for: Time together and kind words” and “How Mei shows care: Help with things”, which the people you’re introduced to see under Getting to know you. We work them out from what you choose, rather than asking you to label yourself, because that tends to give a truer picture. They aren’t used for matching.

Question 5

How does “How you communicate” work?

Accepted Answer

You go through a set of everyday either-or pairs, such as “I get straight to the point” or “I walk through the details”, and tap the dot nearer the one that sounds more like you. From these we write up to three short lines for your introductions: your pace and focus with a tip for getting to know you, your daily rhythm, and how you handle disagreements. There are no better or worse answers: every style has its strengths.